Arguing... and how to stop it

Arguing? Couple Counselling can help! Around half of the people who come to see me are coming because of serious arguing. This is described in various ways, like "We are always fighting" or "We just don't get on any more".

I can help you to change this, quickly. I teach people the dynamics of what's really going on in an argument. I also help you understand the physiological factors that affect our bodies during arguing, which most people don't even know about.

I also do something quite unusual in counselling - but all good couple counsellors will do this: I will INTERRUPT you if I see a good "teaching" opportunity, and explain what could be done better.

I explain the different levels of listening, including the awful and useless "level zero" communication that takes place during arguments. I can teach you a simple way to stop arguing and start communicating. This is the "speaker/listener" technique which teaches empathy, and BREAKS the destructive arguing patterns that are causing your distress.

If your problems stem from one of you having some kind of an affair, I can help with that too - skip over to affairs.htm to see how counselling can help with that.

Surprisingly, arguing can also be linked to the arrival of a new baby. Research shows that around 66% of couples experience a decline in marital satisfaction after the arrival of a new baby.

Call now for a brief consultation, to see if couple counselling is the right thing for you.